| | Re: Wife had an emotional affair and I can't move on
19 days or not, your wife did betray your trust and began an EA with another man. A huge boundary was crossed and done RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU! Obviously there is something missing in your marriage from your wife's point of view and she began looking elsewhere to fill that void.
You still need to verify that there is ongoing non-contact because it could have still been taken underground. Also, at the very least, you should seek some kind of counseling, individual or marriage, to help you deal with the feelings you're experiencing.