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Phenix70 · 06-12-2012, 08:00 PM

So because you won't divorce due to $$ & your almost grown kids, you're prepared to continue to stay married to a man who has shown you no love for almost 30 years & whom you profess no love for?
You do not love him, there is no reason to stay married to him except that you know no other way to live.
To me, this is why this sounds 100% like you have a Martyr Complex.
This life you have been leading is the one you feel most comfortable in, no matter how crappy a marriage you've had.
The fear of shedding your role of martyr is what is holding you back from divorcing, not your kids, not your finances.
There are people who have left their marriages with only the clothes on their backs in order to get away, so your excuses for no divorce are just that, excuses.

06-12-2012, 08:00 PM	#71 (permalink)
Phenix70 Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: WA Posts: 408	Re: How Much Detail? So because you won't divorce due to $$ & your almost grown kids, you're prepared to continue to stay married to a man who has shown you no love for almost 30 years & whom you profess no love for? You do not love him, there is no reason to stay married to him except that you know no other way to live. To me, this is why this sounds 100% like you have a Martyr Complex. This life you have been leading is the one you feel most comfortable in, no matter how crappy a marriage you've had. The fear of shedding your role of martyr is what is holding you back from divorcing, not your kids, not your finances. There are people who have left their marriages with only the clothes on their backs in order to get away, so your excuses for no divorce are just that, excuses.