Originally Posted by Insecure
Conrad, I can see why you would say I am pushing her into his arms. Can you suggest a better course of action for me? I try to be honest and fair with everyone as a general rule and I feel like that is all that I am doing. I think I have aspergers so I don't read people and their emotions very well so I could be really screwing things up by following my instincts.
The positive aspect to this is you both are still talking.
The negatives are her vigorous defensiveness when you confronted this guy. His comment about "not trusting your wife" was totally wrongheaded.
Also, the idea you were not welcome to go to the City with them was simply bad stuff.
You simply need to stand up and tell her that you are "not ok with their relationship" - and do it calmly
She's already crossed several boundary lines and is partially in the affair fog.