confusedinTX

Wow this post is depressing. First of all to those of you who think cheating is the answer get a divorse and be done with it.

As for the first post. I have a 18 month old who doesn't sleep through the night still. I don't know if yours does or not but that tends to have an effect on how tired I am. More then that though when they are that young (even if they sleep) they are very needy and we spend a lot of time holding them which kinda fills a need for physical touch and is draining as well. What my husband has realized is letting me go out for a moms night out with other moms is almost a slame dunk for him. I come home relaxed, happy and appreciate him for letting me go out. I am as stay at home mom so it is nice to have adult time. I try not to go out more then 2 times a month with the girls but it helps a lot. We have sex at least 1-2 a week. I think what would make more more inclined though is a date night....18 months and counting..... The other thing is not the romance before sex but during. If you aren't looking her in the eyes and making it be about making love vs sex then it might be making her less inclined. Instead of "you like how hard you make me" try "you are beautiful" and look her in the eyes when you say it. As a lot of women have said we don't have the same physical need but we do need to feel loved, beautiful and so on. Make love to her more and you both will get what you want. Good luck.