You have probably read this many many times, relationships are always ebbing and flowing. It takes work to keep the spark alive. It is not always a spontaneous thing. We have been together for 11 years, we have 4 kids and all their activities. I make time when my husband comes home to give him a meaningful hug, kiss, back scratch and I always tell him how much he means to me. In the am, he leaves before me, he kisses me and hugs me and tells me how much he wants to grow old with me. The spark is not always there you have to make it there. I have said in other post, I text him during the day. We make a point of all the things that we did when we first met, we try to still do. That is what seems to be keeping the spark alive. It is easy to let it fade when you get caught up in day to day life and forget that your partner is also supposed to be your lover. Just a thought from a middle aged lady.
