Originally Posted by betrayed1
She has stopped all contact, I have FB passwords, cell records etc. NC is established. Now that he knows I know and that I actually do care she says he would never contact her now, and she has promised not to contact him. She admits it's not easy and the days are long but she says she has to get over him and move on...now the question is, is it with me or without me. I have to decide that. Still not 100% sure what we all want here...she doesn't want me to call him and tell him to NC, she says it would crush him. She is still very concerned about his feelings. Can a marriage work through something like this?
is it even possible?
And you give a f*ck about it because ? And what about your feelings? Look, she wants to be in good terms with him in case her half-assed attempt at R with you doesn't work. Atleast that tells you how serious she is about the marriage.
And what is wrong with you? Why do you want her back now? You made a mistake of ignoring her all these years and now you want her back for some unknown reasons. make a proper decision atleast once. Sometimes, it is for the best to let go. Imagine how your marriage needs to be in the best case scenario if you indeed R. Do you see that happening?