Now, either what EI said is true, or she is a master manipulator who was able to control her clueless spouse to feed a "pity me, pity poor me" vibe.
After all with so many children, it reminds me of an old story of as couple who split up 20 years previously, yet had ten children. When asked how this could be she said: "He keeps coming back to apologise."
I raise this because any relationship as bad as the one outlined here should have had zero children, right? Or am I being naive?