Originally Posted by CandieGirl
I only ask because I am currently in the struggle to 'change myself'. Apparently that's all I can do, in any given situation regarding my marriage. I'm in denial over that; even though I know it must be true. What I have a hard time with is why should I have to change myself, when I'm not the one that has done anything wrong? It's a tough call...
Sorry I don't have much time to respond, on my way out of town.
Changing you does not mean that you change the person you are.
It means that you change how you react, respond to, and interact with your husband.
Don't react to his negative behavior. Live by example, you are always possitive and unaffected by him. (at least where he can see it)
Don't respond to his negative behavior. Don't feed into it. Don't have allot of time to explain this, but let him be negative, you come back/stay possitive with you. Control your thoughts, your mind. He cannot make you be anything you do not want to be. Angry, sad, hurt are all emotions that YOU control, not him!
Iteract only when possitive. "I won't allow this to go negative. We can have this discussion when we can do so in a possitive way"
I don't know your situation. What kind of man you have. You don't want to anger him? So you use your best judgement on how you can lead by example and not participate in BS.
If you are your best and he does not respond to that in time. He simply does not deserve YOU!
I hope that helps? I'm simply out of time.
Do your best to, as silly as it sounds, to find inner peace!