swedish

I guess in that case I would talk to your husband about how it's only on the days he's at your in-laws that you are having problems to see if you can come to agreement on what to do there...either ask your husband to try coming straight home (explain to in-laws that you are having this problem with getting him down and need to get a better routine in place on these days) and that you want to avoid getting a sitter but it may get to that point if this doesn't work. If you put your energy into getting the sleep issue resolved (which all involved should agree needs to happen) they may be more apt to work with you rather than feel that you are being overly demanding or placing blame on them which will only put them in a defensive mode. As far as him crying when you leave, I know this is pretty normal for young children and the separation is more obvious when he's not in your home and you can 'sneak' out but as long as he is in a safe place it will help him in the long run when he starts pre-school, etc.