Agreed, you both need to approach it with an open mind and be positive about its ability to help you. Yes, my wife and I did go into counseling last summer for about 4 months. It did help us in understanding some of our core issues. We stopped because we felt that counselor had taken us as far as she could go and because we felt we knew what needed to be done. We are still working at getting things back on track and have agreed that if we can’t we’d take a look at counseling again. I’d recommend you do it.