Originally Posted by synthetic

It's all about her isn't it? You don't matter much. You never did.

My wife is doing exactly the same thing. She's thinks I'm an idiot (or thought!). I can now clearly see through her selfishness.

If she wants to be married, yet separated and independent, she's basically gambling with your heart. I totally understand you still want to reconcile with her, but try to extend your horizon by imagining the days that follow a possible reconciliation.

Will you be able to love and trust her? I'm asking myself this question all the time. It's not like I don't love and trust her. It's that logic tells me I shouldn't. Rarely anyone can fight against logic for long. At the end of the day logic always beats all feelings no matter how strong they are.

Our wives are not wives. They're selfish individuals who are only married on paper, not in their heart.