Just1Man

Well, it has been a long while since I posted here. Sorry to say that things are not better. I know why I'm posting, I have no one to talk to about this. Posting my problems makes me feel a little better so might as well right.

My wife has almost zero sex drive. Once every month or so. I'm not fat, ugly, selfish in bed, etc. We don't work too hard, we have time to be with each other. We have kids but they are not a problem. She admits to having no sex drive. She went to therapy for depression and was promptly cleared even though her therapist never talked to me despite my offer to attend a session.

She is just not interested in physical affection or in putting fourth the effort to have sex. She even admits to not being affectionate and almost robot like.

I recently met a woman 10 years younger than me. We worked together on a project for a week or so. I'm blind to most things (or have chosen to become blind) but even I could see the crush she had on me. Others noticed it as well. It was not a messed up or weird thing. She just likes me and had a hard time not showing it. She figured out quick I was married and tried to keep her crush as respectable as possible and I appreciated that. I was so flattered that it actually hurt. This woman is probably thinking how lucky my wife is to have me, wow, if she only knew.

I think my wife looks to me like a best friend, the father of her children, life partner, and the guy she doesn't have to have sex with. I truly love her but the lack of attention is killing me. This has been going on for close to 5 years...