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Old 06-15-2012, 11:22 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Default Re: At an impasse over spouse spending time with opposite sex colleague.

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Originally Posted by Reggiethelion View Post
A little over 3 months at this point. I really don't know if she will drop him as a running partner after the race. I will ask in the morning.
Why would she? I suspect by then you will be less of a priority for her. But who knows. She basically told you no she is not concerned about your feelings here. Bonds occur much faster than three months especially when you see someone seven days a week for a lot of hours.

Have you guys done any boundary setting as it pertains to the opposite sex? His Needs Her Needs?

I see the biggest problem is that you went along with this from the beginning. The time to have said no to this was before it started.

It sounds to me like you feel you have no veto power here. Is that how you see it? My wife and I have veto power.

So this is not unlike her having a male personal trainer. The nuance here is that he is already a co-worker / friend she spends eight hours a day with.
Wow seven days a week for many months on end. Just wow.
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