stav

You need to pull your finger out girl. Sorry... but sitting around moping is not going to do you any good at all, and the resentment against your husband will just grow and grow till it eats you up, and your marriage with it.

You've only been married a short while, and you've just discovered, being part of a pair is hard work. You will have to put in some effort to make it better. The intimacy thing is partly resentment, because everything is going well for him and you feel trapped and lonely. Perhaps there are other issues regarding sex, and your attitudes to it, that you may find a consellor /therapist can help you resolve.

So you will have little time with him.. Ok, where does he work? If it's not far, why don't you make a habit of meeting him for lunch? Doesn't have to be every day. Even if you make some nice sandwiches and go sit on a park bench with him while you both eat and chat. It's not how much time you have that matters, but how you use it.

Get your butt off the chair and find a little job, even if it is part time.. (maybe something that covers the weekend so you are not lonely at a time you would expect to be home with hubby.) Make a few bucks and arrange for your horse to be shipped over. You obviously miss this release. Planning bringing it over will give you something concrete to do with your time and stop you moping..

When he does get home, arrange for dinner to be ready so that you can sit together and chat while you eat, draw him a bath and scrub his back, get him and maybe yourself in the mood for some cuddles and kisses..

If there is a programme on TV you both like, that comes on while he is working, tape it, and save it to watch together..

There is lots you can do... and the motivation is the thought of getting a successful and happy marriage.

One more thing.. how old are you both? Is there an age gap?