pigpen

Lack of communication is a real passion killer. It is hard to be physically intimate if you dont feel emotionally connected.

You said you say the same things over and over. Its time to change the channel.

First of all, quit trying to have that conversation. Examine the issues that are important to you. How many of these issues do you really need his input on? Set those aside and start tackling the ones you can do on your own one by one. Take responsibility for what you can right now. Dont wait for him to catch up. You have to do this for yourself because (well I know) you can wait for infinity for your man to "get it". He wont right now. Anything you can do for yourself will just make you happier.

Please read what you can about men and women and communications style and motivations. You might try Men ar from Mars, Women are from Venus.

Occasionally in my area couples communications seminars come up through the local learning exchange. If he is resistant about joining you, go on your own. Learn to be the best communicator you can. As you get better at communicating he will get better also.

If you have thoughts of "if only he would" "I could if he does" etc, drop them now. The only person you have to "make" happy in your marriage is yourself. He has to be responsible for himself an you have to be responsible for yourself.

But you have to start this now, before you have major hurts to over come, in addition to communication frustration. Once the hurts start piling up all the rest will help but your job will be much much harder.