daisy883

"Someone up there said "be humble with your apology" . But the damage has already been done. The time for apologies has past. Apologies are best for soothing unintended wounds from festering. These wounds have been festering a long time.

Also it is not the time to explain - explanations lead to recriminations. "I only did this because you did that".

The only thing you can do now is step up and take responsibility."

That is so true. His wounds are too deep now. That's why I'm giving him some space, while still being a good wife to him (I think I am anyway!). I've tried to please him in so many ways in the past few months, like sending him some romantic text messages, write romantic poems for him. I try to be a good listener whenever he lets out his feelings about this issue, which he does quite often, I try to be non-judgemental and try to be empathetic. I bought him gifts and all. He appreciates it, but says that it won't fix things. I know that myself, but it's just guilt I guess that makes me buy things for him. I know he still loves me (well at least likes me). We still sleep together and make love to each other often, but he is not the same person. Some days he’s ok, but other days he’s not, and keeps saying he wants to get separated. I told him to hold on a little longer, that our relationship is worth too much to throw it all away. I told him whenever HE’S ready to forgive me, I’m here for him. But he says that I made him loose interest in marriage and starting a family, he says even if he left me, he wouldn’t get married ever again. He feels totally rejected. How can I re-assure him that I do appreciate everything he’s done for me?

I hope we can get over this phase soon, and be a happy couple again.