| | Re: How to show support for spouse
Thanks a bunch for taking your time to respond. Agree, it is hard to comment without more specifics. At the same time, it is hard to condense a variety of situations. The list of response options are real life in the marriage relationship between my wife and myself. I am very much Irish and no problem talking and can talk about my feelings-not to get attention or hooorah from crowd but it helps me to talk out something heavy that has happened. I am willing to acknowledge my role and accept responsibility for what I have done, i.e. I am not a quick finger pointing person. But there are times when a situation has happened that was very stressful, sometimes I lose my cool (don't hurt anyone) and I hurt afterwards and talk about it. My wife normally will follow in general the first 3 options, not exactly word for word but the general idea from the options. But I recongnize this is her upbringing. She is from northern Germany, raised in a family of 3 girls, no boys and a mother who was very dominate especially toward her husband. I don't ever remember observing in the time we were dating and married in Germany and around her family frequently of her mother expressing positive, encouraging remarks to her girls. She could find fault but that was the extent. She treated her husband the same. I use to think to myself, "what a poor man," having to put up with such criticism. But seems it is coming around again.
Again, I listed the options just to try to be more objective at first.