Originally Posted by Drover
Therapy. If he's really unable to perform, every time you bring up sex just reinforces his shame and makes the problem worse. The less sex you get, the more you want it, the more you beg for it, the more shame he feels, the less able he is to provide it. Get therapy.
Therapy is not an option right now as he has just left to work out of state. WE do have a marriage counselor though.
I plan to fly to see him, but don't know when as of right now. I have some things to get out of the way before I can fly out. Probably be about a month or so until I can fly out or longer. Our anniversary is IN the begining of August which I don't want to be apart for our anniversary this year since last years anniversary really really sucked!! We are so much more emotionally connected now.