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Peachy Cat · 06-16-2012, 07:00 PM

Yes, I can relate.

I started menopause early (I was 37) so my doctor didn't diagnose all my missed periods, manic/depressive type behavior, weight loss, insomnia and migraines as menopause related. I wondered, for several years, what was wrong with me! I was already on Celexa for depression, thank goodness, or I think it would have been much worse.

I separated from my H during my Peri-menopausal time, and it was really difficult. I cried a lot. I felt hopeless and sad all the time. I was SO HAPPY to be away from him and the crap, but I felt isolated and scared. I thought I might have some kind of female cancer and I had no insurance at the time... it was really a bad time for me and not knowing what was wrong made it horrible.

I'm past it now (YAY), so I just deal with hot flashes, night sweats, ugly, loose skin and not so perky breasts... it sucks, but at least I know I'm not going crazy. AND, the jerk is gone, so that helps, too.

I smoke, have never had children and have a family history of numerous cancers (all HUGE risk factors), so I chose not to use HRT at all. Sometimes, in the midst of a really bad hot flash, I think the cancer risk might be worth not always feeling sweaty... but, then the flash passes and I go on-LOL.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time and I wish I had good advice... all I can say is: It DOES eventually get easier.

06-16-2012, 07:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
Peachy Cat Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 139	Re: Menopause Yes, I can relate. I started menopause early (I was 37) so my doctor didn't diagnose all my missed periods, manic/depressive type behavior, weight loss, insomnia and migraines as menopause related. I wondered, for several years, what was wrong with me! I was already on Celexa for depression, thank goodness, or I think it would have been much worse. I separated from my H during my Peri-menopausal time, and it was really difficult. I cried a lot. I felt hopeless and sad all the time. I was SO HAPPY to be away from him and the crap, but I felt isolated and scared. I thought I might have some kind of female cancer and I had no insurance at the time... it was really a bad time for me and not knowing what was wrong made it horrible. I'm past it now (YAY), so I just deal with hot flashes, night sweats, ugly, loose skin and not so perky breasts... it sucks, but at least I know I'm not going crazy. AND, the jerk is gone, so that helps, too. I smoke, have never had children and have a family history of numerous cancers (all HUGE risk factors), so I chose not to use HRT at all. Sometimes, in the midst of a really bad hot flash, I think the cancer risk might be worth not always feeling sweaty... but, then the flash passes and I go on-LOL. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time and I wish I had good advice... all I can say is: It DOES eventually get easier.