Originally Posted by name.user
My gut says there is something way wrong, but I have no proof. She has changed all her passwords after I had her laptop, as she found out I had it. I started checking phone records again, but nothing is conclusive, although there are no numbers associated with data usage for some records, it just says phone in att records.
Thus far I have not tailed her or done anything creepy and wish to refrain from doing so.
What to do?
Ok, you want to refrain from doing anything 'creepy'.... what do YOU define as 'creepy'? Is is creepy to check her cell phone periodically? Not just the usage online, but the phone ITSELF. Does she have ANY chat apps on her phone? Some of them can be set up so you actually save all conversations, or you can choose to delete them all. Some are like texts and can only be deleted if you choose to delete them. I used to have each type on my phone. The ones which are most common, nearly everyone is familiar with them on the computer and on the phones: facebook, yahoo, msn, aim, and even twitter. ON android phones, I know you get gmail/google chat preloaded. However, there are PLENTY of others that are a bit less common. For instance, igotchat, text+ (text plus). Text+ gives you a "new number" which you give to friends, and they text that number. As long as you initiate the conversation, it is free, if i remember correctly. It only shows up in data usage, not in texting, because you are not using your texting. Igotchat doesn't give you a new number, but it is data usage based. You choose an ID like on yahoo/msn/aim. You don't have the option of deleting select messages, it's "all or nothing".... And if the app is on the phone, but no conversations are still on it, either she never used it, or deleted the conversation(s). Chances are, if she got these programs and there are NOT any conversations at ALL... well, you know she deleted things she didn't want you to see.
Also, you can send pics via these programs, much like texting. Texting, you have to consciously save the pics to the phone. With programs like igotchat, it automatically saves the pic to either camera or to downloads once you open it. Any/all pics sent this way. My former EA partner sent my hubby a pic of his wife once thru igotchat. It was a small pic when it showed up on the screen, so hubby clicked on it. He was disgusted. She had no issue with her hubby sending the pic...that's how she is. Anyway, just by clicking, hubby ended up saving the pic. He had to actually go into his pics and delete it from the phone.
Anyway, look for some of those apps and see if you can possibly set any up to save the chats so you would be able to read them.