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05NeonSXT · 05-14-2008, 05:36 PM

I had a really hard time trusting him again after basically abandoning me when I was pregnant. He'd proven himself after years of showing me he was worth my time. Things were ok, and that's why I decided to accept his marriage proposal.

He was raised so much differently than me, my parents both worked hard to support the family, and growing up we knew that things last when they are taken care of.
He grew up with mommy and daddy dealing drugs and going to jail. I never held that against him, but no one ever taught him about families, marriage, or finances, Let alone goals.

I'm a college graduate with a very rewarding job that allows me to be very financially stable.
He's has a GED. No job currently, was working at a bowling alley.

I want to build a house, he says "we already have a roof over our heads". I finally just bought a new car because he would only look at cars $500 or less.

We are 2 completely different people, from 2 different worlds. But when he still had something to prove to me, before we got married, he did everything I wish he'd do still. We've had "The Talk" so many times, and I say the exact same things over and over again. He'll do right for a day or 2 then fall back into his ways. I let him slide for a week or so, then I try to reitterate my position, and I get the "What'd I do now?" reply.

He says he loves me and he's happy (Oh, how could he not be? He has someone to cook, clean, pay for his crap. I'd be happy too.)

My kids don't have a relationship with their dad and it doesn't bother him one bit. Our oldest son broke his arm a few weeks ago, I took him to the ER, my husband stayed home to watch tv.

One word to describe my marriage:
Pointless.

05-14-2008, 05:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
05NeonSXT Registered User Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 3	Re: Losing patience I had a really hard time trusting him again after basically abandoning me when I was pregnant. He'd proven himself after years of showing me he was worth my time. Things were ok, and that's why I decided to accept his marriage proposal. He was raised so much differently than me, my parents both worked hard to support the family, and growing up we knew that things last when they are taken care of. He grew up with mommy and daddy dealing drugs and going to jail. I never held that against him, but no one ever taught him about families, marriage, or finances, Let alone goals. I'm a college graduate with a very rewarding job that allows me to be very financially stable. He's has a GED. No job currently, was working at a bowling alley. I want to build a house, he says "we already have a roof over our heads". I finally just bought a new car because he would only look at cars $500 or less. We are 2 completely different people, from 2 different worlds. But when he still had something to prove to me, before we got married, he did everything I wish he'd do still. We've had "The Talk" so many times, and I say the exact same things over and over again. He'll do right for a day or 2 then fall back into his ways. I let him slide for a week or so, then I try to reitterate my position, and I get the "What'd I do now?" reply. He says he loves me and he's happy (Oh, how could he not be? He has someone to cook, clean, pay for his crap. I'd be happy too.) My kids don't have a relationship with their dad and it doesn't bother him one bit. Our oldest son broke his arm a few weeks ago, I took him to the ER, my husband stayed home to watch tv. One word to describe my marriage: Pointless.