Originally Posted by Cee Paul
Oh I also believe that it DOES help some people and if so that is awesome, but in our case as soon as we left church & walked through our front doors at home it would start all over again, and I know many couples who are in the exact same situation church or no church.
That's one thing that's very frustrating about "church" as we have today. Realistically, with the size of most churches, it's probably not going to change. Where you will see more benefit is when you get connected to small groups or activities, forming a tighter bond with fewer people.
It's in those settings where we begin to remove our facades and start talking about real issues and real problems. Only then can we get good support from our community.
Where people see hypocrisy is that they walk into church, know there's a whole bunch of issues going on, but no one talks about them. It creates the illusion of perfection. The truth is, if you knew the lives of those people, you would see a ton of hurting people. People going through divorce, infidelity, drug and alcohol addictions, runaway kids, sexual and physical abuse, etc. That stuff isn't going to come out in one hour a week in front of 100 people.