| | Re: He left 5 months ago....still with OW
There is another way to look at your situation.
You are right, you did not cheat. You did everything you knew how to protect your family.
Maybe there was a reason your children were born to YOU. Maybe some other mother would (through no fault of her own) break down under the strain of this horrible situation. Maybe she would have lost her mind, or become an alcoholic, or decided she needed a piece of that and started trawling bars for a warm male body to replace the one she lost.
But you have done none of those things--things we could hardly blame you for doing if you had. Instead, you have moved forward--figuring out how to stay employed, figuring out how to be strong in front of your children, and gaining I hope some new-found respect for how STRONG you are even when you don't feel that way.
I have read many a story from grown men in particular speaking with profound love and admiration for a mother who raised them on her own. It is clear you have this same capability. He is the one who is missing so much. The fact that he may not ever understand this makes him MORE of a lost soul, not less.