Did you sit your husband down, or approach him calmly to let him know if you guys continued in the direction you were going, that the marriage would be over? Have you unselfishly stepped outside of yourself to see yourself in your husband's eyes and see what you have possibly done to help cause the problems in your marriage? Have you seriously considered the possibility that you might have been or are being selfish and self-centered? Or do you only blame him? I'm asking these things because I, myself, have done these things to cause issues in my own marriage and I'm now trying to dig myself out.