| | Re: Porn sex
Porn is performance. There is acting. It might be to make some fantasy look realistic. It might even be an attempt to look genuine. Porn is made with a crew and a set, and with those basic elements it isn't genuine and requires acting to convey an appearance of a couple that isn't distracted by the presence of other things and people, and who usually don't have the same things driving their sex that drive sex during sex between a couple.
So to the woman complaining about the man wanting porn sex, the fact is she's probably just rationalizing her not wanting sex with him. It probably has nothing to do with the kind of sex he wants, and the kind of sex he's asking for probably doesn't have to do with wanting to re-enact a performance - he just has an idea to explore.
The thread linked below is about as close as I get to my story, it has my posts about the point where I turned my marriage around and on the day my wife was planning to move out, instead we started a new beginning. I've been keeping my updates in this thead as well: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...-sex-life.html