| | Re: Husband only makes love to me while high and talking dirty!
Wow...that is an awful way to be treated. Personally if I was you I would leave him without even thinking it over any longer.
I hate to say but I don't think your husband is in love you, if he was he would not treat you like this and on top of try brining an escort into the picture. In fact I will be surprised if he isn't cheating/cheated on you already. He is showing clear signs of disinterest and only interest in you when he gets high, getting high should not be the only way for him to want to have sex with you...and it susper ****ed up that his resolution it to turn too porn.
Some couples are fing with porn and threesomes, however they are usually very close to one another physically and emotionally. In your case your husband does not give a sh** about you, for most men sex is the way they show they love you, if he has to get high in order to have sex with you, than it's not okay. I kinda want to beat the **** out of your husband right now, because no woman should be treated like that. He is only using you when it's "good" timing for him.
I have a feeling that he is either cheating, or he has watched so much porn that nothing else turns him on anymore other than porn or "porn" like scenarios, like threesomes. Clearly he needs both to get high and viagra to get to have sex with you.
Stop having sex with him, show him how it feels. If he asks even if he is high, say NO, and tell him to go watch his porn. Tell him you are done being available for sex when it's good timing for him. YOUR needs are just as important as his.
I hate to tell anyone to leave their husband without trying to fix it first, but this would be the last straw for me if I was you, sex is huge part of any relationship and it should not have such conditions and verbal abuse he exhibits. It's unnaceptable.
When people are so in deep like that, they rarely change. But if he truly loves you than he is going to change the way he acts, but you may be just wasting more of your time.
I wish you the best, and you deserve better. I don't know the other areas of your relationship, so I'd say follow your gut. Make him "chase" you, if he wants sex he better earn it from you. If he doesn't "chase" you or tries to change than leave him. You do not want to spend the rest of your life like this, and it will only get worse if he keeps acting this way.
*HUGS* I hope everything workout for you sweety, you deserve to be loved with no conditions nor requirements.