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that_girl · 06-19-2012, 01:03 AM

You can't change or control HER. You CAN change and control yourself. You can also teach her how to treat you, and let her know what you will and won't tolerate.

I used to be somewhat like your wife. Hubs put his foot down and left...then when we were hanging out (while he had moved out) if i tried anything, he'd just smile and do it his way and i learned to truly trust him and just let him do what he does. I had total control issues about my life because I was never in control of my life. I had abandonment issues and other issues that made trusting people difficult. After a year of therapy, I am healed and have learned techniques to deal with myself.

I tell ya, it's a hell of a lot easier to live when you feel you don't have to control everything.

06-19-2012, 01:03 AM	#33 (permalink)
that_girl Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Wherever I lay my head. Posts: 14,244	Re: What comments would you NOT forgive from your spouse? You can't change or control HER. You CAN change and control yourself. You can also teach her how to treat you, and let her know what you will and won't tolerate. I used to be somewhat like your wife. Hubs put his foot down and left...then when we were hanging out (while he had moved out) if i tried anything, he'd just smile and do it his way and i learned to truly trust him and just let him do what he does. I had total control issues about my life because I was never in control of my life. I had abandonment issues and other issues that made trusting people difficult. After a year of therapy, I am healed and have learned techniques to deal with myself. I tell ya, it's a hell of a lot easier to live when you feel you don't have to control everything. __________________ "If you were an aqua fresca, you'd be a wh0re-chata."