| | Re: NOW I get it. Too late for an old dog... ?
Woe - not trying to cast blame on you when I say that there is a big difference between you seeing the light and you proving to her that you have changed.
What she sees in you more than anything else is that you dropped the divorce bomb on her, you knew what she needed but didn't try very hard, and you spied on her and went through her personal stuff.
I only say this to agree with others that you need some time to reinvent yourself in her eyes, and trying to move too quickly or worrying too much about what she's doing right now is not in your best interest.