Deejo, I think you are definitely hitting on something. I have now officially been out of the house for a couple of months. I have been very devoted to the one person. It was weird getting out, and all of a sudden, I could be devoted to me. I have been on a few dates and met some incredible people. But, I am coming to realize that I kind of like having plenty of time to myself and doing things that I've always wanted to do.
It is funny. Once going out with a few people they have pursued me, and you are very correct in that the first date experience I looked at as a project. A project to find out how that person ticks, what makes them who they are, and are they interesting enough for me to continue seeing them. All of this because at the end of the day, I like me and am comfortable with who I am and value my time. This all is a product of my forgiveness of my ex and truly letting go, thus treating her as I want to be treated.
Interesting thing is the ex notices how I am changed. She now is taking responsibility for her part in our marriage breakdown. She has become very introspective. Who knows how this will proceed.