 Re: How could he screw that up?
I think standards are the key when understanding this whole walk away syndrome. Myself, when I said my marriage vows I really meant them...and after having a child, I'd have never ever have broken them. When the other person thinks marriage is a disposable item, like so much else in our consumer society, you have a huge inequality there. The person who holds marriage and intact family close to their hearts ends up gradually compromising more and more, while the other, subconsciously or consciously, just takes advantage of that fact. Then once they are done changing you, they decide they don't like what you've become....and kick you to the curb anyway.
At least, I think that's probably a lot of what happened with my situation. Never again.
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