Originally Posted by DiZ
I am going through this and it has been hard. Mostly the migraines and mood swings. I have been on HRT for a year and it helped but one cannot stay on it long due to increase of chance of breast cancer. My mom was on it for 10 years and did get breast cancer and one breast removed.
I am retired so when I get a migraine I am able to take something and sleep through it.
My husband has been pretty good but his EA of course added to my sadness which is the big emotion I have been feeling during menopause. I am on an anti-depressant and it has helped but when I found out about his EA no pill could help that.
The biggest mood I feel like I said is sadness. I cry for no reason and cannot even explain it to anyone even myself. This was going on before his EA and of course more after.
Now that he has stopped all contact with the woman I am better but still feel sad. It has been getting better and when I feel like crying I usually just go in the bathroom and come out. He can tell I've been crying but I don't let him comfort me and don't talk about it which I know is wrong. I just don't want to keep bringing up the EA over and over but it runs over and over in my head. Not a day goes by that I don't think of it.
Can anyone relate?
Hi DiZ ~
I am going through perimenopause now and yes, having a hard time with some of the physical and emotional issues that it involves.
I also have severe migraines since being in this phase of my life. I have found that taking extra Magnesium (I take 600 mg a day) and extra riboflavin (I take about 300 mg a day) have made a difference. Most people who get migraines are over-calcified (they have too much calcium in their bodies) and are under-magnified (they have too little magnesium in their bodies).
I have found that I do have more mood swings in general, and that trying to come to grips with aging and a changing body can be difficult at times. I would imagine if your H had an EA, then that could be doubly hard. Do you have anyone that you can talk to about this? What have you and your husband done to reconcile after his EA? Have you gone to any counseling - alone or together?
Someone also mentioned weight gain aorund the middle, which is common during menopause because the body tries to hang on to as much estrogen as it can, and belly fat is one of the best places for it to be stored. Doggone belly fat anyway!