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Old 09-02-2009, 04:47 AM   #66 (permalink)
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Looks like it will get worse before better. The MC session wasn't that good. She called my wife in before me to get to know her true feelings and intenet.. Well my wife kept telling her she is done.. The session wasn't to good as that was the focus. I am to meet with her alone next week. I am sure she is going to try and get me to understand her current feelings and a course of action for me.. On the way home was more talking about us. More of me tring to understand how she went from trying a few months ago to putting her foot down now. How her letter to me said she needed my help or she wasn't going to make it or he fact she wanted to do things with me more. Still the only thing I get out of our problems is a bunch of hurt feelings over 15 years. Most of which I hear was 15 years ago.. Like how she blames me for who she became. So after we got home I talked some more and said why not give it 6 months with the MC to see if it can work. 6 months with a professional. She was like I don't want to waste any more time. I don't have the strenght to do this again if it doesn't work.. She gets so upset with me cause it has to be my way or no way. I understand what she is saying but her way is a divorce. She keeps asking me if she should be miserable here. I said staying doesn't have to be miserable thats why I am doing he MC and the book..After all that she is trying to get me to move out.. Not sure I should or not.. One part of me says yes. It wil give her a chance to miss me. It will also give her a chance to cool down.. The part says no cause this is my house and I won't see my kids that much. especially my son who would probably never stay with me over night due not having the accomodations. I hardly slept last night. 3 hours straight and then pieced together another hour after that. If anybody has any insight on how to eliminate her hurt feelings I would love to know..
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