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Lon · 06-20-2012, 09:46 AM

Well it could be she is just being honest about sex, just not interested, in which case you could try being more flirty/romantic or less available, or more assertive and dominant - any one of a number of things that may work or have the opposite affect. If she has such a low sex drive, perhaps it is hormonal - any medications she is on? How is your own health, do you keep yourself physically fit? your hygiene good?

Or else she could be getting her sexual needs met elsewhere, 50-60 hour work weeks may enable a lot of time working closely with coworkers of the opposite gender whom likely also have unfulfilled sexual needs at home, perhaps the "stress" of her work week is actually the stress of keeping her secret life from merging.

Have either of you explicitly said the "ILYBINILWY" yet? If so, it is a very good indication that an affair is in progress. Are there any other signs of infidelity? New lingerie? Hiding cell phones? Recent fitness streak? If a marriage is like a hot air balloon it requires a frequent addition of heat and if one of you is putting the heat elsewhere the balloon will descend and eventually crash.

06-20-2012, 09:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
Lon Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Canada Posts: 5,714	Re: love but not sure im in love Well it could be she is just being honest about sex, just not interested, in which case you could try being more flirty/romantic or less available, or more assertive and dominant - any one of a number of things that may work or have the opposite affect. If she has such a low sex drive, perhaps it is hormonal - any medications she is on? How is your own health, do you keep yourself physically fit? your hygiene good? Or else she could be getting her sexual needs met elsewhere, 50-60 hour work weeks may enable a lot of time working closely with coworkers of the opposite gender whom likely also have unfulfilled sexual needs at home, perhaps the "stress" of her work week is actually the stress of keeping her secret life from merging. Have either of you explicitly said the "ILYBINILWY" yet? If so, it is a very good indication that an affair is in progress. Are there any other signs of infidelity? New lingerie? Hiding cell phones? Recent fitness streak? If a marriage is like a hot air balloon it requires a frequent addition of heat and if one of you is putting the heat elsewhere the balloon will descend and eventually crash.