Originally Posted by that_girl
Um. You read too much into things...no? I guess since you were actually texting, it made sense to you...
That and I have no clue how much detail to provide because I know I can provide too much and loose the interest of my audience, or I can provide not enough and fail to make my point.
The point is that there's a lot of very indirect things going on. If I'm making an assumption about the sexuallity of her response, I'm accomplishing something. There are a couple of possibilities, and they're all good. If she's as sexual as I pretend she is, then I'm giving her a feeling of being comfortable with that sexuality. If she isn't, then I'm making her laugh thus making her comfortable with me and more open to my suggestions.
I'm also avoiding doing some things that are bad. I am not being direct about sexual plans I have, if I did that and she was not in the mood then I would be creating a fear response and c-blocking myself.
I'd be all for getting examples from others. I'm new to this, we've been married 10 years and my wife before this used texting to chat with her sisters and that was it. So we've never really gotten into texting the way it's done now on the dating scene or whatever... From what I've been doing, it's worked well for me to build sexual tension, so I'm happy but I'd always be glad to have an opportunity to do better.