WillK

Well that's not so different from my point. It is a matter of presentation. If I showed her these posts and said "Why can't you be like that" it's a turnoff, if it's framed as something I'd like absent pressure, then it's much more comfortable.

I've been able to converse with her that I'd like to get us back to a state where we have sex almost every day. She said maybe, and I've heard enough of her maybes to know that what she meant is that she's been put off by the way I used to be, but she's warming up to me and if I keep it up, then yes.

That comes from body language and tone - the stuff I maybe didn't really notice before.

Like I said, I can see it improving before my eyes. I'm happy with that, and I think it's improving at a rate that is better than I expected. I didn't expect to get any until her next peak in the cycle.

Heck. I planned my upcoming vascectomy around her schedule.. Now I feel like I'm going to have to miss out during my recovery time. I guess that's a good problem to have though.

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The thread linked below is about as close as I get to my story, it has my posts about the point where I turned my marriage around and on the day my wife was planning to move out, instead we started a new beginning. I've been keeping my updates in this thead as well:
http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general...-sex-life.html