confusedinmo

As a mother and a career driven individual it is sometimes very hard but necessary for me to choose between my job and kids, and it is often convenient for me to choose my career because I know I have back up with my husband...however, if he starts taking on most of the caretaker responsibility I know I start to resent it a little. I sometimes find myself shutting down emotionally in order to avoid dealing with those feelings and sometimes I shut my husband out. However, he does work full time, and travel some and when he's out of town...that is when I spend more time with my girls and I am more connected to my identity as a mother. I don't know if this is how your wife is feeling, but it may be possible that she too is struggling with an identity crisis because of your situation. If you think that is the case, maybe you could arrange for her to spend more one on one time with your son; which may help her feel more connected to her maternal side and less threatened by you. I hope that is not too left field. Anyway, whatever you do, you're right, you should definitely keep your son's welfare upmost priority. Good luck.