Originally Posted by EverRain
It concerns me that my WH attention now, his remorsefulness, his attention, his affection and concern for me is somehow not totally real, don't get me wrong, I need this from him right now and it helps, but I can't help but wonder if he is just scared of losing me? How do I know who the real person is...the one who was distant and cared more for his EA, or is this really him?
I know how you feel. I wish I had an answer for you.
Your question seems to be the eternal question for all betrayed spouses.
It really hurts and it is so sad that just for having a bit of carefree sex or emotional stroking, our spouses seemed to not care a wit about possibly destroying their marriages.