Re: Any suggestions!!!
As a women who has also been married for 12 years and just leaving an affair to try and work on myself in order to give my marriage a chance, I would ask myself - why am I cheating? I don't know the answer for myself, but I know I too am unhappy in my marriage. But I think it may be more about being unhappy with me. If this is the case, the cheating just compounds the unhappiness and whatever relief or escape is found in such relationships is temporary and weakens one's capacity to truly love...not just their spouse but anyone...because they can't love themselves. At least that's how I've felt for the last couple years I've cheated. Advice...start respecting yourself and stop the affair(s), take care of yourself and your kids. Once you do that, maybe you'll be able to find clarity in your marriage and/or strength to leave once and for all.
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