| | Re: Handling a Not So Great Experience
Yeah, the mistake here was trying to push the envelope on two frontiers at once. Essentially, you were plowing new ground both in the bondage side and the oral side. Now, you have the two linked in her mind.
Your instincts are right. Retreat to making basic connection tonight. If subject comes up, own your mistake. You saw statement as license for her to lay back and receive pleasure from you (because you were enjoying giving it to her as well.) You realize later how statement could be construed as you treating her as object. Underscore this was not you intent at all. Best of luck.