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AFEH · 06-20-2012, 02:05 PM

Racer, I was married to the female equivalent of the Nice Guy for 37 years and with her for forty-two years. She had outstanding qualities but I was on the receiving end of her passive aggression once too many times and so it ended.

Unless PAs deal with their wounds and anger in healthy ways it gets worse and worse over the years, until it becomes intolerable.

We all get hurt and wounded. PAs and Nice Guys just don’t deal with their wounds in healthy ways. To me it seems more important to them that they keep their wounds open and festering than it ever is to actually heal them. I think one of the reasons is so they can blame others for their failures.

06-20-2012, 02:05 PM	#5 (permalink)
AFEH Banned Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 4,778	Re: The Making of the Nice Guy? Racer, I was married to the female equivalent of the Nice Guy for 37 years and with her for forty-two years. She had outstanding qualities but I was on the receiving end of her passive aggression once too many times and so it ended. Unless PAs deal with their wounds and anger in healthy ways it gets worse and worse over the years, until it becomes intolerable. We all get hurt and wounded. PAs and Nice Guys just don’t deal with their wounds in healthy ways. To me it seems more important to them that they keep their wounds open and festering than it ever is to actually heal them. I think one of the reasons is so they can blame others for their failures.