| | Re: love but not sure im in love
Don't let her assume you are unhappy, tell her and explain why. Do not drop the divorce word but express your concern that if things won't change, if you are both not willing to work on it together you will let it go to divorce because you are unwilling to live this way. Then do what you can to work on yourself.
Divorce is never the ideal solution, but neither is staying in a marriage that can't work and where both partners don't have self-respect, so sometimes divorce is the only way to overcome the dealbreakers.