Originally Posted by lamaga
BPD is really hard to diagnose even for professionals -- perhaps we should concentrate on helping greatlakes without engaging in armchair psychology.
No need for diagnosis. It's the knowledge that can help the relationship.
Once symptoms are recognized the realities of the relationship become apparent and this can help bring stability to an otherwise doomed dynamic.
Have you ever dealt with black and white thinking of a spouse? Have you ever felt absolutely hated for no apparent reason only to be passionately loved the next hour with no recognizable trigger for the change? It's a subtle but heart crushing experience that turns the strongest people on earth into confused low confidence mice.
Greatlakes, take the psychological aspect of this very seriously. Learn why you feel the way you do. Otherwise, you will always find yourself at the same crossroads.