Re: Not sure I want her home
Hi Cooper...(great name - which happens to be the same as my one year old!)
My heart goes out to you. I always talk to my clients about 1) learning to trust their instincts and 2) what healthy boundaries look like. You're clearly very uncomfortable in your situation and it sounds like her behavior over time has a lot to do with it. Infidelity is one of the hardest things a couple can experience but it can be worked through - with a helluva lot of work. However, if there's no admission of an affair in the first place - yet your heart and gut tells you it's happening - there's little chance of moving forward and healing.
This type of behavior is not only clearly damaging to you - but the entire family. I'd wonder what other experiences you've had throughout your life where "turning the other cheek" has brought you pain. Something to chew on. Good luck to you...Lisa
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