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mollyL · 05-16-2008, 01:18 PM

You said that when you two are having "problems", that's when the cheating occurs. It can be hard for us ladies to comprehend, but any number of "problems" can leave men feeling emasculated. Work, money, and sex problems, among others, can leave your man feeling scared, worried, and not so sure he is the "man" he wants and needs to be. That's when the more simple and straightforward wooing and bedding of a woman becomes very attractive. The other woman doesn't know him; she doesn't know about problems, fears, etc that has left your man feeling so empty. If he can pursue and "capture" another woman that reinforces his maleness to him.
One other piece of advice I would give that you may or may not agree with, but here it is: stop calling your husband's girlfriends. When you do that, you are giving them a legitimacy the other woman just does not deserve, right in the middle of you and your man's relationship.

05-16-2008, 01:18 PM	#11 (permalink)
mollyL Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 126	Re: Wondering what to do... You said that when you two are having "problems", that's when the cheating occurs. It can be hard for us ladies to comprehend, but any number of "problems" can leave men feeling emasculated. Work, money, and sex problems, among others, can leave your man feeling scared, worried, and not so sure he is the "man" he wants and needs to be. That's when the more simple and straightforward wooing and bedding of a woman becomes very attractive. The other woman doesn't know him; she doesn't know about problems, fears, etc that has left your man feeling so empty. If he can pursue and "capture" another woman that reinforces his maleness to him. One other piece of advice I would give that you may or may not agree with, but here it is: stop calling your husband's girlfriends. When you do that, you are giving them a legitimacy the other woman just does not deserve, right in the middle of you and your man's relationship.