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Racer · 06-21-2012, 10:52 AM

Thanks AFEH... My wife was the opposite of a PA. She does the tantrum and boundary pushing thing like a child to try and get her wants and needs. So, mixing my NG PA traits with her tantrums spelled disaster for me. Almost opposite methods to get attention, love and acceptance. I'd just infuriate her, and she'd always escalate until I caved.... So, I had to change to challenge that tantrum method head on and she had to change to start seeing how 'being nice' really wasn't a expectation she should have (thus devalue), but my way of trying for her..

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Racer Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Denver Posts: 942	Re: The Making of the Nice Guy? Thanks AFEH... My wife was the opposite of a PA. She does the tantrum and boundary pushing thing like a child to try and get her wants and needs. So, mixing my NG PA traits with her tantrums spelled disaster for me. Almost opposite methods to get attention, love and acceptance. I'd just infuriate her, and she'd always escalate until I caved.... So, I had to change to challenge that tantrum method head on and she had to change to start seeing how 'being nice' really wasn't a expectation she should have (thus devalue), but my way of trying for her..