I've only been married since May this year and my husband and I have been together about 3 years before our special day. My husband was unemployed for about 4 months after finishing school (Jan. to April), I however, was working full time and he would just hangout at my place all day and look for jobs. I didn't mind.
We use facebook and play games on it etc., but he started playing poker and talking with a girl that lives near our city. I didn't mind, until I found out that he had called her almost daily while he was working out of the city (not where she lives) and racked up a huge bill with long distance minutes (we had a long distance relationship for about 9 months and he would hate when I called him because he didn't like talking on the phone). Needless to say, I was really upset and told him how much it hurt that he would call and talk to her and not to me...his wife.
I told him that I would really appreciate it if he would stop calling her and he never said yes...or no. So I've been checking in on his cell usage and have told him how much it hurts that he spends sooo much time talking to her on msn after he gets home from work (he also sometimes calls her while he's at work). He said he understands how much it hurts, but he's still doing it..WHY?! Last night I caught him on webcam with her while he was sitting across from me. I asked him "who're you camming with" and he said "I'm not?" and I said "then why is your cam light on?" (I also saw in the reflection that he was on cam with someone) and he said "oh, does it stay on when you take pictures?" and I said "I'm not $%&*ing stupid, you're on cam for her right?" and he went silent.
I don't think I've ever been so hurt before in my life. I've asked him to stop calling her, I wasn't really minding msn talking, but after last night I want him to never call her, delete/block her from msn and facebook. Am I wrong to want this? He says they're just friends (she's married and has 3 kids, but I guess her husband drinks a lot). I would also like to ask her to stop seeking emotional support from my husband to replace what she's not getting from hers....but I don't think that confronting her will help any...
It just seems like he's drawing away from me and going to her instead of him and I think that's what hurts the most. I feel like ever since he started talking to her, he has changed....I miss the guy I wanted to marry.
We use facebook and play games on it etc., but he started playing poker and talking with a girl that lives near our city. I didn't mind, until I found out that he had called her almost daily while he was working out of the city (not where she lives) and racked up a huge bill with long distance minutes (we had a long distance relationship for about 9 months and he would hate when I called him because he didn't like talking on the phone). Needless to say, I was really upset and told him how much it hurt that he would call and talk to her and not to me...his wife.
I told him that I would really appreciate it if he would stop calling her and he never said yes...or no. So I've been checking in on his cell usage and have told him how much it hurts that he spends sooo much time talking to her on msn after he gets home from work (he also sometimes calls her while he's at work). He said he understands how much it hurts, but he's still doing it..WHY?! Last night I caught him on webcam with her while he was sitting across from me. I asked him "who're you camming with" and he said "I'm not?" and I said "then why is your cam light on?" (I also saw in the reflection that he was on cam with someone) and he said "oh, does it stay on when you take pictures?" and I said "I'm not $%&*ing stupid, you're on cam for her right?" and he went silent.
I don't think I've ever been so hurt before in my life. I've asked him to stop calling her, I wasn't really minding msn talking, but after last night I want him to never call her, delete/block her from msn and facebook. Am I wrong to want this? He says they're just friends (she's married and has 3 kids, but I guess her husband drinks a lot). I would also like to ask her to stop seeking emotional support from my husband to replace what she's not getting from hers....but I don't think that confronting her will help any...
It just seems like he's drawing away from me and going to her instead of him and I think that's what hurts the most. I feel like ever since he started talking to her, he has changed....I miss the guy I wanted to marry.