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Originally Posted by kergincru
How can I get her to be just as enthusiastic about it?
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You cannot. You can only change you, not her. She has to want to change herself. As my heart goes out to both of you I can see that neither one of you is free and clear from causing this relationship to be toxic. I am glad you are going to counceling and I think individual counceling is very important for both of you. I can tell you that both of you need to stop bringing up past problems into a new disagreement. You need to discuss only the problem at hand. If it gets to heated you both need to stop and have a time out. You have to agree on these things. You also have to state that she can never hit you again. Abuse either way is not right and if she does it again, she needs to leave. There have been times that I have wanted to hit and never acted upon it. If she cannot control these actions she needs help. Maybe she has a hormonal imbalance after having your child that needs to be addressed. Just a thought.