Sad thing is a lot of what you describe is me!
For years I am convinced now after finally after years of my wife's begging me I started an antidepressant. I now see what all my blow ups and fits of anger have done to my children and my wife. The other sad thing is that it may be too late to fix it. Until recently did I realize how far back the depression really went.
Get him to a doctor and give him the chance to make a change if he will try. I just keep praying that my wife will have just a little more patience for me to fix what took me 18 years to screw up.
