I would think the fact that a woman would joke about starving her husband sex is a HUGE indicator that she DOESN'T know the impact of what she's doing. Seriously, we, as women, are not so much cold hearted as we are clueless in that area! We aren't given the rule book at birth, ya know!
I'm here to tell you, she doesn't know the impact and if you really believed that of her, what are you still doing there?
Evidently, this woman can go a year without sex. What makes you think a person that can deny THEMSELVES for that long, could possibly KNOW what they are doing to you?
Secondly, I have to be honest with you, at one point, while I'm reading your posts, I think "man, I would hate to be that guy's gf, she can't do anything right! She can't have a thought or make a statement without him suspecting her of some devious plan to mess with his head." Then I read about how you're just shy of a year on not gettin' any lovin' and I really feel bad for you.
I don't think it's your communication or lack of romance or overly blunt ways of making a point at times
, I think it might be a clue. First, and I've touched on this before with you, it might be her past. Second, if not, it's a major CLUE that you should probably break up. That's just how I see it. A month is too long to go without, dude, a year is ridiculous!