Originally Posted by blue*eyes

OK alittle background info: been together for 18 years(wow thats along time) and married for 12 years, both are in our 30's and we do have children.
I consider myself to be a very strong individual and tend to speak my mind. I don't believe in cheating. I feel like if your going to cheat just let the person know and move on. But yet my husband has cheated on me many times(not to sure how many, as I'm sure theres times I'm not aware of) and I have taken him back and said we'd get through it. Not sure why I do this because like I said I don't believe in playing with peoples mind or emotions. I know if we didn't have kids I'd been out long ago.
Whenever we do have problems he has always turned to another women. Thats when it all starts with the phone calls, text messages and emails between him and other women. He'll go out to the bars and be gone sometimes for days at a time with no contact with me. I have called these other women and let them know he's married and yes we are going through issues but still live together. Well their excuse is he said you'd be calling me cause your jealous and don't want him to move on with his life. So the contact continues because they believe his story. All the while he's telling me he wants to be with me and work things out.
I have come to the point where I'm totally fed up. I've been told so many rumors and I do know some are fact. My stuff has been in boxes for months now. He's thrown my stuff and broke up many things. I just can't afford to move out or afford for him to move out and I stay in the house. He's another one that doesn't want to pay the bills. I just saved us from foreclosure on the house. I'm feel like I'm ready to move on and be done with him altogether. I could probably write pages of what I've been through. Has anyone been in a similar situation, if so send me any advice.